TRUE Versus False CHOICE – The 4 CHOICES

Posted on June 20, 2011 by Chantal Christine Boudreau

In my practice I have an exercise called “True/False Choice”.  Most clients who struggle in life don’t know why  and come to see me with lots of confusion and excuses for their poor health/achievements/result/success.  More often than not they operate from “the quadrant” of  “Deny, Avoidance or False CHOICES” and that for a very long time:

1- DENY CHOICE- IT DOES NOT PRODUCE RESULTS, PEOPLE LOSE

NOT PLAYING in the game of LIFE

• Perceives oneself as having no responsibility and therefore not to blame or at fault. Their perception is they never fail

• Acts like they don’t care (they can actually care a lot)

• Doesn’t have to feel anything (they can actually be quite sensitive) VICTIM of circumstances

• Not even running in the race 

• Plays the wait and see game and still does not make a choice

• I’m right, no matter what!

• “I don’t want to” grow up -  Don’t want to make a CHOICE

• What stops you is how you feel and what you think (YOUR PROGRAMS!)

 

2-  AVOID CHOICE – DOES NOT PRODUCE RESULTS, PEOPLE LOSE

• JUST PLAYING

• Sees the choice but does not make it.

• If it goes good, I’ll stick with this choice, but if it goes bad, I’ll make a different choice

• Plays the wait and see game.. .a journalist…is on the sidelines of life Because they don’t make the choice, the choice gets made for them! ! Creates doubt and confusion

• Says, ” I want this” but settles for mediocrity

• WANTS TO BE RIGHT.. .defensive, righteous, excuses

• Reactive instead of proactive

• Victim

• More afraid of losing something/someone than taking the RISK

• Has POTENTIAL

• “Thinking” about growing up

 

3- FALSE CHOICE – PRODUCES RESULTS, PEOPLE WIN

• PLAYS NOT TO LOSE (does not want to fail or make a mistake) – Heavy price to pay to keep up with this:  exhaustion/stress/poor health

• Does not choose for one’s self

• Choice is based on the expectations of others: society, family, authority, looking good, supposed to, have to, they made me, etc.

• Reactive instead of proactive

• Often feels used, victimized or feels like one has to or should

• Success is often achieved but is unfulfilling and exhausting affecting health

• “Is this important to me?”

• I am a leader, therefore I have to get it done and it is expected of me

• “Trying” to grow up

 

4- TRUE CHOICE – PRODUCES RESULTS, PEOPLE WIN

• PLAYS TO WIN

• Takes personal responsibility for one’s choices and accepts all consequences Uses change as an opportunity for growth

• Proactive -finds solutions -achieves goals and success

• Creates liberty

• Is a leader of self and others

• Has no judgment on how others play the game

• Not righteous, just is

• When it gets tough, blames no one and keeps going

• Is “grown up”

True choice is the only acceptable place and if you want to know the definition of True Choice That brings true results then I invite you to make a visit to my office – it is my work after all and I value it! REMEMBER It takes courage to have an OPEN AND HONEST view on what is NOT WORKING in your life, and you DON’T HAVE TO DO IT alone!

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How to recognized Negative People!

Posted on June 1, 2011 by Chantal Christine Boudreau

One of my clients asked me how to protect oneself from negative people when you can’t SEE or FEEL their true colors!

I had to think about this for a while until it made itself clear in my mind that there are external SIGNS that can help a person to recognized a negative person and avoid been caught in their heavy energy. Here is what I came up with, and of course please read this with an open mind since we all collect some negative energy in our system at time, and it does not mean we are all toxic!!!

Use your discernment and ask your HEART to clarify this for you and DO cleansing/clearing of your energy field every day.

Signs of negative people and/or people who have lots of negativity in their auric field:

  • most feel/act/think and speak like “victim”- victimization/blaming others for everything WRONG that happened in their life
  • are huge complainers – complain about everything all the time to others and use lots of swear language
  • always see things as “Black or White”- Stubbornness-Rigidity of thoughts, beliefs, routine, actions..also appears stiff in their body
  • are always “Right” everyone else is “Wrong” and there is “nothing wrong with me!”
  • poor listening skills – want to be listen to yet failed to listen to anyone
  • tend to be clever at hiding behind personality masks to match the social context – pretend
  • tend to lie a lot or be compulsive liars
  • are often sick, cold/flu with reoccurring chronic health issues-favorite subject love to talk about it to attract attention to “them”
  • tend to use dis-empowering words like: kill, hate, fight, try,need, should/would, wish, can’t, hard, right/wrong, black/white
  • have often big EGO and it is always about “them” in any situation
  • tend to suck your energy/power out and leave you  “drained”  with a feeling of “numbness” “fogginess”  or “aloofness”.
  • tend to give lots of “advice” or opinions and don’t like Feedback
  • tend to be very defensive when caught doing something wrong
  • tend to be very competitive – above the level of wanting to do their best
  • exhibit lot of frustration, anger, resentment, annoyance, bitterness, irritation and are unable to FORGIVE anything “done” to them or Forgive anyone for that reason.

Dr. Drew gives a great definition of Sociopath that fits some if these signs OR read Borderline Personality Disorder

PLEASE remember that there are also some Neurological Impairments such as Autism, Asperger and ASD that display some of these characteristics. Keep an open mind before going into judgment! First the simple fact to have the awareness of who these people might be allows you to choose to limit your time of contact with them. Second, there is a simple technique in Energy therapy that able you to seal your chakra centers and core meridians from receiving and reacting to their negativity. Third, the more you practice “Detachment, Love, Compassion and Forgiveness” the more you will be able to sustain longer contact without reacting or getting your systems off balance and self-integrity.

On the other hand, a positive person will ALWAYS have an UP-LIFTING feeling on you and you will feel RE-ENERGIZED! And that is what my clients tell of me every-time they leave my office :D

Be well Choose Well and Be inspired ~

 

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Nutrigenomic – The GUT and Brain Connection-Whole Food Therapy

Posted on March 17, 2011 by Chantal Christine Boudreau

Last week, I was invited to participate at the Integrative Nutrition Symposium by the NEMDA (Northeastern Mass. Dietetic Asso.) to present my work on Emotional Eating Disorders. The speakers at this event were Doctors and were addressing dietitians about the new research on Nutrigenomic, the application of Epigenetic to nutrition on the basis of WholeFood as Therapy for healing the body and supporting the genes - and the brain being one very important organ -Epigenetic is researching on the activation or silence of DNA expression.   Also, many of the dietitians there were also well familiarized with Dr. Feingold diet for ADD.

Determinism versus Susceptibility

The good news is DNA is not your Destiny! Yet the foods you eat have an impact on the genes pool and their expression. How? They are gene mutations that are deterministic like Down Syndrome, Huntington’s Disease, and gene variants associated with the prevention or mitigation of disease dysfunction through NUTRITION and ENVIRONMENT. Therefore be mindful of what you eat!

One of the speakers, Colleen Fogerty Draper, MS,RD,LDN demonstrated clearly that many very young children with undetected severe food allergies or sensitivities have their GUT/GI  impaired creating biological and neurological problems. These young children were allergic to the most common allergens (gluten, wheat, dairy, soy, nuts, eggs, corn, sesame), and were having many symptoms that resembled ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorders) and ADD.

These foods proteins cause inflammations in their GUT which become toxins that affect the neurotransmitters and the expression of genes in the DNA they are called Neurotoxins. These neurotoxins  in turn are responsible for severe to mild speech delays, eczema, dermatitis, Asthma, fine and gross-motor skills  impairments, hyperactivity, attention-deficit…sensory integration dysfunction (sensitivity to loud sounds, bright light, touch, olfactory and gustatory)…the unpleasant behaviors (tantrums/defiance) and anxiety (separation and/or transitional).

Interestingly, one has to question a correlation of the increased number of people with Autism, ADD, SID, Celiac, Asthma, Food Allergies these past twenty years or so – and the introduction of Genetically Modified Crops GMO in human consumptions worldwide, ingested directly or indirectly (meat/poultry/fish) .

To read more on GMO: http://bit.ly/hcdeBC

Like Coleen Draper whose work was inspired by her two young daughters with severe eczema and speech delays and who was not receiving answers or much support by her pediatrician,  I went back to school 10 years ago to learn about nutrition for my younger son. I knew intuitively that foods were causing many of the distresses  in his body. Listening to Dr. Draper telling her story brought all sorts of memories about the challenges that my son had to go through….

Development of Allergies

Before birth, the immune system is skewed to prevent allergic reactions between mom and baby.  In the first year, the immune system should rebound to have a balance of T1 (virus) and T2(allergen) cells and prevent allergic reactions. For reasons that remain to be explored, more and more children today don’t undergo this shift, their T2 remains higher than T1, therefore their immune system is “primed” for allergic reactions : IgE Immediate allergies, Eczema, Asthma,  leading to Indoor & Outdoor allergies.

Not just genetic!

“A statistical genetic risk to a disease or condition does not mean that you will express the disease or condition …It is an important starting point, but then the freedom and responsibility is to choose your way; to choose the right diet and optimized lifestyle for your genetic pre-disposition,” explained Müller.

Professor Michael Müller, is the scientific director of the Netherlands Nutrigenomics Centre at Wageningen University, and Dr Ben van Ommen, executive director of NuGO. Müller added that this is because a number of other factors, including metabolism and the gut health, also play key roles in our overall health status. Dr van Ommen added pointed to a wider phenotyping issue: “Genetics is only part of the issue, a driving factor,” he explained. Van Ommen also highlighted that that a personalized outlook to nutrition is not just about food:

“It is about the full service. Food together with testing, diagnosis and advice … the interactions between the initial test and the advised diets is the important thing,” he explained.

The tests for food allergies were not as efficient as the ones today. Most allergies tests were blood test that checks for antibodies, yet not all food sensitivity creates antibodies, and this is why the GI pathway must be tested. Here are two tests recommended:

The MRT (Mediator Release Test)  www.betterbloodtest.com

The ALLER-Check by US Biotek   www.usbiotek.com

The gut is the seat of immune responses – When the GUT is disturbed by allergenic foods, artificial chemicals from foods, Emotional STRESS, parasites you get GI inflammations that impair the absorption and digestion of nutrients. Health begins with digestion!  all GI inflammation caused most chronic diseases such IBS, Crohn, Acid Reflux, Ulcers, Arthritis, Gout, Esophagitis, Asthma, GERD, Celiac, Diabetes, migraines, Weight gain, Obesity….and neuro-impairments as stated above including Depression and Anxiety. Again, GMO crops must be also playing a role in the susceptibility of certain genes and their expression.

Remember there are more benefits to your health eating a Whole Food diet adapted to your metabolism than a “customized nutrition” which is often reduced to a “personalized supplementation”, Nutritional is not just taking pills!

Your Health is YOUR responsibility!

Chantal

And to read more about WHOLEFOOD AS THERAPY GO TO : http://bit.ly/dEZnzV

Another great blog on the DANGEROUS effects of Chemicals in Foods! http://huff.to/ipHbnB

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Why New Year Resolutions Don’t work …. Unless We Change Who We are…inside!

Posted on December 29, 2010 by Chantal Christine Boudreau

Here we are once again! This is the time of the year when everyone is thinking of their New Year “Resolutions”. Are you one of the many that have seen these New Year resolutions come and go… resolutions that were short lived? Have you struggled with goals all your life because you were feeling unfulfilled, fearful, anxious, angry, stuck, overwhelmed, unfocused, procrastinate and too often physically sick?

You read about these great “Tips” or watch videos on “How to’s” to move you forward and yet these feelings kept coming back impairing your chances of success! I maybe that emotional “Engram” or “imprint” is at cause – Don’t ignore them, they are the why you are NOT moving forward in life!

Engram is the term for embedded trauma, painful incident, violent event or abuses causing tension or stress in the physical. And “Biological sedimentation” is the term that refers to the piling of layers of events, incidents, traumas, injuries, infections, pain, pathology, anger, fears, shocks… or “Engrams”. I often use the term “Cellular Consciousness” to refer to the complete memory of all our experiences that we each carry in our bodies from the day of our conception to now.

From the time you are born your subconscious mind has been exposed to “programs” or “beliefs system” from your parents ‘s own generational sets of program, the environment, and others influential caregivers. You quickly learned that your actions or behaviors created emotional responses, positive or negative in yourself and on the people around you,  and to “feel” more of  these emotions you had to repeat that behavior.

Ultimately, your were constantly aiming at generating approval and to receive LOVE from your caregivers.  More you, the ego-mind learned to identify with the “thoughts” of who you perceived to be based on the feedback your behavior generated.  “I am a good girl and I feel loved by mom when I put my toys away… ” I am a bad boy when I hurt my little brother and dad don’t love me because he send me to my room” etc…Bob Hoffman, creator of the Hoffman Process, at the Hoffman Institute called this the “Negative Love Syndrome”.  The good news here is that YOU are NOT your THOUGHTS!!!

Also, Neurologist, Dr. Sigmund Freud, later father of Psychology knew very well that the source of every symptom in the body has a Subconscious Emotional pattern associated with. When that emotional pattern is triggered the body responded with a biochemical chain reaction – sending red flags to pay attention – It became in the habits to suppress symptoms with medications, therefore people lost the connection with their own internal communication. The body stores these layers in its memory bank in the Subconscious mind affecting current level of health: structural (spine-bones), biochemical (body fluids- cells- organs), mental (neuro-connection-negative self-talk), emotional (negative feelings) and spiritual layer (lack of trust-Disbelief/loss of faith).

Further, these “Engram” mix with negative self-talk, thoughts, feelings and emotions create Neuropetides with receptors in the brain. Dr. Candice Pert* called this process “emotions and mind-body communication”. These Neuro-pathways are reinforced each time similar events occur. The responsibility of the “Ego-mind” is to create situations and events that will match-up to our “dominant feeling” in the brain – and to satisfy these receptors with neuropeptides – Each time more and more is demanded! Now you have become “addicted” to your negative emotions! As adults, we tend to recapitulate/reproduce the very behaviors we used to win our parents’ love.

These behavior patterns or “Recapitulations” play out in your adult lives as well. Many people perpetuate and attracted relationships that are similar to what they experienced with their parents because this was how they learned about love. Recapitulate means “to repeat in concise form.”. There are many kinds of recapitulations; all are ways of creating situations that allow a person to continue to deal with unresolved feelings, situations, energy, etc. (See my Sept. Blog)

Be aware that one of the most common Ego-mind strategies or defense mechanisms people use to suppress their negative memories and feelings is self-medication with alcohol, drugs and foods, which become addictions and jeopardize further their physical health.

None of us can make changes in the world without first making a change within ourselves. This is the premise of Quantum Healing4U. My work is about understanding people’s unique perceptions of reality and working with them to help set and reach goals and overcoming barriers to success. I teach how to use patterns in human behavior to make effective changes with NLP and Hypnotherapy. NLP is the study of creating EXCELLENCE by giving more STRATEGIES and CHOICES to achieve success in all areas of life, health, relationships, careers, business, money, and performance. With NLP you are able to “re-pattern” and create new perceptions of your reality. Changing your perceptions of the past “engram” will change your present and future!

Now you know why your goals or dreams never realized! As to your New Year Resolutions, after healing has occurred choose to be committed to Yourself – choose INTENTIONS that reflect a step by step “action plan” using the SMART model:

Specific-Measurable-Attainable-Risky- Timely (according to who?)

Please join the many people that have found health, joy and balance in their life again from releasing their embedded self-limitations.

Happy 2011!

*Dr. Candace Pert’s over 25 years interest and research into neuropeptide receptors in the brain and later, the immune system provided a biochemical basis for interdependent communication between mind and body and contributed to the emergence of the field of psychoneuroimmunology

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Are You Having Physical Pain?

Posted on November 12, 2010 by Chantal Christine Boudreau

Have you exhausted conventional and alternatives options yet no long-term results? Here is maybe why..

According to Louise Hays, the pioneer of Neuro-psycho-immunology and many other Mind-body therapists, we create every so-called illness in our body. Louise Hay wrote that “continuous modes of thinking and speaking produce body behaviors and postures. Mental patterns are reflected in our physical body; just take a look people’s faces or body postures, a person who has a scowling face did not produce it by having joyous, loving thoughts”. Every cell within your body responds to every single thoughts your think or words you speak. The most common causes of serious illness are Fear and Anger, and anger as: Resentment, Revenge, Grudges, Unforgiveness, Frustration, Irritation, Impatience, Criticism, Jealousy and Guilt. Fear as anxiety, worry, doubt, insecurity and tension. These are creating more stress in our lives than any other thoughts or emotions. When you learn Forgiveness, it will add years to a much higher quality of life.

Recently, I went to listen to Deepak Chopra speak about the latest studies on the constant communication between the physical body and the world we live in. Deepak refers to the world as the “Quantum World” and the body as many “Processes” and it is in constant change and evolution within the Quantum World. Basically, you are not the person you were 5, 10, 15 years ago physically & biologically or even from the time you woke up this morning to the person reading this blog now!

These processes are always working towards homeostasis/harmony and each cell is continuously aware of the others and of the larger picture. Our body receives billions of “impulses” from our sense receptors, and these are interpreted by the brain as a 3D “perception of reality”, which in turn creates thoughts, emotions, and feelings….visible in the brain as neuro-peptides. Through the many processes one gets completely new organs and body! Most importantly, Deepak added that our Cellular Consciousness is the complete memory of all our experiences we have stored from the day of conception to now. WOW! What does this mean?

Just imagine this constant communication between the emotional and mental states and overall health when stress, anxiety, sadness, grief, guilt, irritability, resentment, revenge, bitterness and anger arise from repeating emotional trauma! After years these negative emotions have affected your sense of self such as:
Hopeless. You feel as if there is no hope because you do believe it is possible to achieve anything.
Helpless. You believe that something is possible but you are not personally capable of achieving it.
Unworthy. You do not believe that you deserve to attain success whatsoever.

Your negative feelings “Anger” triggers the body’s “fight-or-flight” response, creating hyper-arousal in the body in order to cope with a perceived crisis. Stress is a body’s response; the raising blood pressure, speeding heart rate, and stress depress the body’s immune system in order to focus on the threat of the moment. Over time, stress responses cause negative health effects. The physical body manifests emotional blockages leading to lower the functioning of organs, pains and muscle tension, exhaustion and other physical ailments. How? Every time you mentally revisit or tell someone what happened over and over again you reinforce the stress response in the body.
Are you one who goes ritually for years to a psychotherapist but can’t get the story out of your mind, or a chiropractor and no matter how many times you were adjusted for a vertebral subluxation the pain or tension keeps coming back? Researchers are showing a link between prolonged anger or resentment and a host of heightened medical risks.

Further, and as Eckhart Tolle writes “anger or resentment strengthen the EGO enormously by increasing the sense of separateness, emphasizing the otherness of others” and creating an impregnable fortress like mental position of “I am right – you are wrong”, on top of creating “tension or inflammations”. Sadly to say, the Ego-mind become so addicted to pain&suffering that it will attract situations/events/people that will recreate suffering. Again, because of the ways in which resentment and unforgiveness interact with the brain, the body’s reactions can lead to chronic and sometimes serious physical ailments.

Additionally, many who experience prolonged resentment seek to self medicate through alcohol, drugs, tobacco or unhealthy eating patterns which can lead to secondary health problems. Other negative health effects of anger for those harboring grudges can include headaches, digestive issues, arthritis, gout, hypo/hyperthyroidism, tachycardia (rapid heartbeat), arrhythmia (irregular heartbeat), fibromyalgia, MS, high cholesterol, hypertension (high blood pressure), heart failure, stroke and cancer. Here is the most compelling research to read on The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study - http://xnet.kp.org/permanentejournal/winter02/goldtolead.html by Dr. Vincent J. Felitti MD.

The most significant result shared by Deepak is how people increase their chances to manifest serious illnesses by 50% when they are not feeling loved, appreciated or were ignored, either by peers, at work or by their own family. Yet, when people surrounded themselves or connect even virtually with happy and positive peers, doing happy activities, they increase their life expectancy by 50%. As Louise Hay said it so wonderfully “The mind is just a tool and you are more than your mind- you only have control over your own thoughts” so better change them and think happy ones!

Therefore, my question to you is: what 50% are you choosing to go for? When you learn FORGIVENESS, it will add years to a much higher quality of life, and you don’t have to do it alone – Seek professional help from a practitioner that you can trust and with who you have a good rapport, who have “walk the talk” and who have expertise in non-conventional psychotherapy, like Mind-Body medicines, such as NLP, Hypnotherapy, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and Reiki.

“Forgiveness in the heart comes about when the walls of separation in the ego-mind fall. Forgiveness is born of increased awareness. The more you can see, the easier it is to forgive.” Deepak Chopra.

Be well Choose Well be Inspired Chantal Click to see the video
DNA/HEART Connection Video

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