Posts Tagged ‘NLP’

Is your life a roller coaster? One moment you are happy the next you are angry and overwhelmed by all sort of negatives thoughts and emotions. You practically have little control and you feel it is dictated by the experiences that life throws at you.

If anything, anger at self or others is the negative emotion that you often find yourself with. Although you stuff the anger inside, you are stacking up in negative energy, ready to burst. And, of course the domino effect of biochemical-physiological responses takes place and various illnesses appear out of nowhere….flu, colds, sore-throat, IBS, Sinusitis etc…..! The more you connected with the inner feelings of hurt and frustration associated with the memory of what triggered anger, the higher the intensity of emotions.

You have no awareness that you could think of anger as a state; a state that you could dis-associate (NLP language) from.

If you have been experiencing much conflict in your relationships with others, then it is that while you may value peace, your actions may well be demonstrating otherwise. Anger can cause you to make unwise decisions, say hurtful remarks, destroy relationships and take drastic actions that you may regret later. It is an emotion that blocks your way to abundance.

Your actions are the doing of the ego. Your ego is addicted to drama. There is a surge of negative energy that feeds your anger, frustration and hostility. Once started, it is difficult to stop the gathering momentum of this energy and this is why you need to seek professional help.

Your survival is at stake, when your ego feels threatened. You need to move into the position of defense if an attack is no longer possible. You feel justified in your actions. You need to be right!
Being right strengthens the ego. You experience a sense of superiority. It can be subtle at times. It happens when you believe that you are fighting for a just cause. But being right is about identifying with a mental state – an opinion, a judgment, a story, a perspective. When you are right, it also means that someone else is wrong. If the other person feels challenged by your insistence of being right, it becomes the fight of the egos.

You may again insist that you are right because of the facts. But facts can also be a matter of perception. They can also get clouded with other considerations. Egos are great at distorting information to satisfy the selfish needs of one-self. What you perceive as facts may well be an illusion. What you see in others is a reflection of you. According to the Law of Attraction, you have also attracted what lie within your thoughts.

“I am right; you are wrong” is a common belief that causes separation and deep anger. It is the thought that causes the divide among nations, religions and cultures. No good has ever come from the adoption of this belief. Over time, resentment becomes grievance. It is a strong negative emotion connected to an event kept alive by the retelling of the story in your head. The grievance is invariably about what “someone did to me”. You cannot let go of its grip over you.

You also look for instances that strengthen the same story. Each instance is a validation of “I am right” thought pattern. Your grievance is long-suffering. You now play the victim role. The heavier the baggage of past hurts, the more dramatic your role is. What you get out of life pretty much mirrors your thoughts. In a way, your conflicts with others are not really about others.

It is about your relationship with the Now! When you are in resistance with the Now, you will find yourself experiencing conflict in everything (be it an event or relationship with others) that you encounter. You are basically not at peace in the moment. Nothing goes right! Ignoring a problem is never the solution. Anger unresolved is often a sign of an overload. It happens when you unconsciously accumulate an internal storehouse with anger. You collect all negative energy with the common theme of unmet expectations.
The questions to ask yourself when you are experiencing dysfunctional relationships: What is my relationship with the Now? Fighting? In resistance? What am I aligned to? Oneness? Or Separation? What am I choosing in my present experience: Peace or Drama?

In NLP, we learn that it is very possible to change our internal state. The first step, obviously, comes with awareness. The more aware you are about your emotions, the more you can stop anger at its track should it arise. Upon awareness, you realize that you have a choice. You can end the conflict that you are in. You decide if you want to make peace or war right this instant. You move in alignment with whatever comes up in the Now. Your state of Being changes. You experience a change in paradigm. A sense of calmness follows. A letting go. Others respond more positively. Your relationships improve, most importantly your Health improves and your abundance in life manifests – Now.

You can then choose to use NLP techniques or EFT to address your negative emotions. As you gain in awareness and understanding, anger dissipates. Few things rail you as much, going forward. Peace and calm is the order of the day! Your thoughts become charged up with positive energy; there is also more love and abundance in your life!

And since life is made up of moments, by making peace with each successive moment, you are also making Peace with Life.

Be well, Be inspired
Chantal

Letting Go of your Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs are essentially made up of thoughts. When you habitually think of the same thoughts and when they become “real” in your mind, they form your beliefs. Beliefs can be positive and empowering; or negative and limiting. Positive beliefs can propel you to greater heights, while negative ones can send you spiraling downwards! Remember all your New Year resolutions and goals from years ago?

Many times, you probably feel as if your beliefs are fixed. You are dead sure that you are right and would stubbornly hold on to them. You feel outraged when someone dares challenge your “truths” and distort your reality. However, what you fail to see is the possibility that your beliefs may be flawed; giving you a false representation than what is truly the case.

You are a victim in life, when you refused to let go of your negative thoughts. In the face of a financial disaster, you believe that you are not worthy of having money. When you find yourself with no friends, your perception is that “no one loves me” or that “it is hard to make friends”. When you encounter problems at work, you say that “I am not good enough”. On a more horrifying scale, terrorists were motivated by their beliefs, to kill and die with others, by hijacking and crashing two American airplanes into the Twin Towers on 11 September 2001. And it was the belief that terrorism must be defeated at all costs that prompted President Bush to respond by attacking Iraq and Afghanistan.

Sadly, all of us, including myself, grew up with several limiting beliefs. Perhaps it was that when you were young, you were told that you were lousy at art, music or dance. The beliefs became self fulfilling in a way, because you gave up your dream in pursuing any one of these interests. If anything, when you were 6 years old, it was easy to accept what an adult or an authoritative figure tells you. Let me explain further –

What Are Limiting Beliefs?

According to a research into beliefs done by Dilts and DeLozier (both NLP innovators and authors), there are 3 main ways that people limit themselves.

They are:

Hopelessness. You feel as if there is no hope because you do believe it is possible to achieve anything.

Helplessness. You believe that something is possible but you are not personally capable of achieving it.

Worthlessness. You do not believe that you deserve to attain success whatsoever.

Ask yourself if you have any of these limiting thoughts:

“I really have to work hard at…”
“It is too hard to reach the top”
“Other people can be rich not me”
“Money don’t grow on tree”
“Rich people are greedy and obnoxious”
“Others can do it better than me.”
“It is difficult to be successful.”
“Trying something new is too scary.”
“It’s impossible for me to lose weight.”
“I am just not genetically wired to be creative.”
“I am not attractive and cannot attract a good man (or woman) into my life.”
“I am not good at selling things”
“It runs in my family genes”
“My DNA is what it is and I can’t change it”

How Are Beliefs Formed?

The terminology “Childhood Imprints” in Neurolinguistic or “Engrams” in Psychology refers to the time of life starting from conception of a child until the developmental stage of 7 years of age. Major events can affect your view of the world and of yourself. These imprints come from all the experiences you have been exposed to unconsciously and consciously from:

- The environment in which you grew up. Your parents, your school and the community that you are exposed to play a part in shaping your belief system. How you encounter difficulties now is largely determined by the stories that you have been told as a child.

- Modeling. You may unconsciously take on the beliefs of someone you deeply admire. If the model in your life says so, then it must be so. Again parents are the most predominant model shaping our beliefs system about who we think we are and what we are expected to do.

- Significant Experiences. You may go through certain life-altering experiences that shape your beliefs. If the experiences turn out to be triumphs, you are likely to believe that anything is possible. If the experiences are horrid ones and your attitude is negative, you are likely to adopt a lot of disempowering thoughts and fears.

The life that you create is largely determined by your beliefs. Take a minute to assess where you are in life – are you fulfilled and satisfied by your life, relationships, and career? Are you achieving your goals? Are you getting the results? When you hold on to your beliefs that you are not capable of achieving something, you don’t have the desire to work at it enough, lose interest and sabotage your efforts in some way. Ring some bell here? You also prevent yourself from finding evidence to disprove them.

Change your Limited Beliefs – Change your Life

Using NLP terms, beliefs are perceptual filters. They determine how you view the world. They also act as confirmations in your reality of the environment. However, problems arise when they are flawed, distorted or steeped in unhelpful ways. Only when you become consciously aware about your assumptions, can there be the possibility of you breaking free.

Whatever makes up your beliefs becomes true for you. Thoughts that are disempowering wear you down and put you in a constant struggle. Instead of a smooth balance path, you find yourself facing more difficulties than others. With limiting beliefs, you are thwarting the process of personal growth for yourself. According to the Law of Attraction, it will also be difficult for you to attract the outcomes that you desire, since you are not in alignment with your inner Being and the Universe.

It is crucial that you deal with these self sabotaging thoughts. When the beliefs are deep rooted, they are usually in the form of black or white thinking. This simply means that you think in terms of extreme pole ends such as “should” and “should never”, “can” and “cannot”; and “a piece of cake” and “way impossible”. For myself, my pet words used to be “don’t know how” and “no I can’t”, which created many missed opportunities in the past.

What you don’t often realize is that when you learn “how to do the new things” that you initially have no faith over; your beliefs start to change. Suddenly, from a feeling of failure and hopelessness, you feel more positive and empowered!

The paradigm shift that you experience can be a very liberating experience! And when you do have this shift, you experience Oneness with your inner Being. You are in alignment with who you really are, doing your PURPOSE. The Law of Attraction works in your favor and best at this stage and you create more opportunities to confirm your new belief system!

Take a minute to assess where you are in life – are you fulfilled and satisfied with your life, relationships, and career? Are you achieving your goals? Reaching your dreams? Are you getting results?

If you don’t say yes to all of these questions then it is time to consider taking my New group class called “THE POWER OF BELIEFS” starting in May – Space is limited so act quickly – for more information just give me a call!

The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The
difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing.”

– Michael E. Gerber, Author of The E-Myth Revisited

Mind-body & Energy Medicine

Clearing the past for a brighter healthier future!

Healing is about treating the person who has the disease, not merely about addressing the disease the person has. Spiritual healing brings about the easing of symptoms, the removal of blocks in energetic flows, the retrieval of repressed memories of emotional hurts, improvements in many illnesses, improvements in relationships, success, joy, and an opening into spiritual awareness. All of these may be achieved with no more than the laying-on of hands, with meridian tapping, Neurolinguistic, Hypnosis, Nutrition and mentoring.

Neurologist, Dr. Sigmund Freud, later father of Psychology and his medical colleagues knew very well as they wrote clearly in their practical medical books, that the source of every symptom in the body has a Subconscious Emotional pattern associated with. When that emotional pattern is triggered the body responded with a biochemical chain reaction – sending red flags to pay attention – yet this knowledge was disregarded by later medical schools and with the frenzy of developing drugs. It became in the habits to suppress symptoms with medications, therefore people lost the connection with their own internal communication.

Today we have so many people completely numbed physically and emotionally by psychotic drugs such as anti-depressants (Zoloft) and most suffered childhood traumas- http://bit.ly/7oC4aY. Unfortunately, there are now cases of them developing severe anxiety and panic attack after many years of using these drugs.

My experience grew as I worked with many people, mostly women who came to me for various reasons/symptoms/conditions, such as self-sabotaging habits, fear of success/failure, overweight, eating disorders, anxiety, depression, stress, addictions, insomnia, physical pain, anger, allergies, bad relationships, poor success etc…

These clients were victims of some form of abuse in the first 8 years of their life, or later traumas and most had years of “talk therapy”. Yet, they were unable to process the feelings/emotions associated with these memories. Suppressed memories manifested in their body as physical illnesses on top of a lack of confidence and self-love, unworthiness, fears, sense of failure, or angry behavior… Someone had to make the connection and this is why I excel in psycho-neuro-immunology.

In essence, spiritual healing is a holistic/whole-istic therapy. In my own practice of Neuro-linguistic–hypnosis-Energy therapy, nutrition, coaching combined with spiritual healing I find that the healing facilitates the retrieval of emotional traumas underlying physical and emotional problems, and limited beliefs. I help people to process the emotional traumas uncovered and released through healing by providing a new vibrational level of Energy. Often, and after completion of the healing process, my clients undergo coaching to support them rediscovering a sense of purpose or a passion in life. My personal belief is that this combination of cognitive, energetic, mentorship and spiritual elements offers a new paradigm for healing in this 21st century.

Bottom line, I help create a New healthier and happier person – if you are stuck, have poor relationships, unfulfilling or unsuccessful businesses, not reaching goals, consider giving me a call! You have not tried everything until you try everything ~

Moving you Far and Beyond!

Removing Negative Imprints with Hypnosis & NLP

Imprints are subconscious beliefs that we hold to be true about ourselves. Negative imprints are those beliefs that hold us back from reaching our goals and achieving our dreams and desires. Imprints are established through either internal or external stimulants. An example of an internal stimulant that creates an imprint is Self-Talk. Do you ever catch yourself saying, “I can’t do that”, or “I’m no good at this” or “this is too hard” ? An external stimulant that generates a negative imprint might be hearing your mother tell you that, “You’ll never be as good as your brother”. Hearing the same message over and over, or even one time if delivered in a strong emotional way, created an imprint.

We have all heard from authority figures as children, teachers, parents, and other relatives. As a child, and from the time we are born to the age of 13, we do not have the ability to filter out things that do not make sense or those that are simply not true. As adults we consciously recognize many of the earlier beliefs are wrong however, we continue to behave in a way that fits and feed the subconscious imprint. How do you know if you have an imprint that prevents you from becoming the person you desire to be? Here are few questions:

Have you been experiencing the problem for more than five years?
Do you experience small successes followed by setbacks?
Are you able to recall a specific event where the problem began? This would normally be during an emotional upset. Do you experience negative feelings such as anger, anxiety, sadness, guilt, depression….?

Small successes followed by setbacks can be frustrating. Wanting to remove 30 pounds, actually releasing only 10 or 15 pounds followed by putting it all back and sometimes more is a pattern that is very common when a negative imprint is in place. Having good fortune or achieving success is often followed by a string of difficulties if your imprint (subconscious belief) is that you will not amount to much or you don’t deserve to have success in life. In coaching I also speak of “Thermostats” which represent the limits where our subconscious as set itself based on our past. We have many of them, the most common thermostats are about money, success, love, joy, relationships ….

Since imprints are subconscious, Hypnosis and NLP are an excellent tool to remove or to modify them. Bypassing the conscious mind allows change to take place. At the same time a limiting, negative imprint is removed a positive imprint that supports the change you desire can be instilled. Since each person is unique you can expect their imprints and response to the techniques to remove them will be unique as well.
One way to eliminate current negative imprints or to prevent future imprints would be to use an affirmation several times each day.

Affirmations are best given just before you arise in the morning or just before you fall asleep at night. Since these are given while conscious on in a very light trance repetition will be very helpful. Keep at it and you’ll notice changes that will bring you closer to the person you desire to be within a couple of weeks. A very good affirmation follows; simply fill in your goal in the space at the end.

There is no person, thought, idea, memory, image, feeling, or sensation, out of the past, in the present, or ever to arrive in the future that could stop me from………….

Remember you Subconscious mind need repetition before adopting the new imprint or habit – It takes 28 days for the Moon to complete her cycle – give yourself time
And if you are not successful on your own consider making an appointment ~